Arriving in Arlington on Saturday, Bob was driving and I was on the look out for the street we needed to turn on. About five streets later, we were driving out of town.
It's not a very big town. It only has one cop. On the second trip through we found the street and the church and I spotted people I knew and then realized...I left the freaking card at home and would have to mail it. We tracked down Mom in the church and a short time later, the ceremony started. Aside from the incredibly bizarre and negative marriage sermon
, the ceremony was nice, Rachel looked beautiful. All the girls looked lovely. Rachel had five attendants. Her three sisters, our cousin Jessica, and James' sister. And my cousin Jeannette's little daughter Audrey was the flower girl. She's about 1&1/2 and absolutely adorable.
My mom had gotten there early because she was in charge of taking care of my grandma for the day. Grandma is...95? She's still pretty well capable, but she needs someone to drive her around and make sure she's doing alright. Mom had also altered Jessica's bridesmaid dress so she'd come prepared with a few sewing supplies "just in case." Her preparation came in handy because she'd also come with black thread in tow and ended up saving the day for one of the groomsmen when he discovered that one of his pant legs was completely shredded down the back nowhere near a seam. (Smooth, Men's Warehouse.) That's my mom for ya.
The reception hall was just across the road from the church and Bob and I hadn't planned on staying very late, especially when my mom left fairly early to take my tired grandma home. But we ended up staying most of the night. We got a lot of congratulations from family about our marriage and Bob got to meet a lot of Dad's family. We visited with everyone and it was really nice to not feel like a complete outsider being around them. I'm pretty sure it has everything to do with the improvements in my mental health the past couple of years, but still after all these years...it's a strange feeling.
Mom, Bob, and I were the only ones there to represent our section of the family. Dad was planning on going, but he's been having problems with one of his feet (the medical term escapes me at the moment) and was having a lot of trouble walking and couldn't even put a shoe on on Saturday so he stayed home. Mike was out of town riding roller coasters in Ohio. Amy and Dale had already planned not to go because the kids did not handle the last couple of weddings they went to very well. And I have no idea where Joe was, because Joe usually goes to family weddings.
Rachel and James had their first dance to Stand By Me
which was actually sung by a friend of theirs. And then the DJ did a few of the other traditional dances. One thing I hadn't seen before was a "married couples dance" where all of the married couples in the room were called out on to the floor to dance and little by little dismissed based on how long they'd been married. First was less than a day. Then less than a year--Bob and I were the only ones to leave then. Then it was increments of five years I believe. He got all the way up to 35 and still had a full dance floor. When he called 40 years the entire floor cleared except for one couple (they had 44 years). He said he'd never had that happen before. It was kind of neat. Later there was a special request put in for my Uncle Jim and Aunt Karen as it also happened to be their 29th wedding anniversary that day--Conway Twitty's I'd Love to Lay You Down
And FINALLY I didn't have to be the only adult single girl out on the dance floor with all the little girls when the bouquet was tossed because I'm already MARRIED. HA! THAT IS FREAKING AWESOME!!!!
My cousin Becky (who is also Rachel's twin sister) was all over Bob and me half the night. She's going to be in
another wedding of a family friend the day of our wedding party so she's not going to be able to make it and she's very disappointed. But I guess the rest of their family is going to do both parties that day. Becky was out on the dance floor as the Electric Slide
started and spotted me sitting at our table and gave me a look
and it was all over. I was dragged out on to the dance floor and that was pretty much it. Despite the fact that I have no rhythm and can't dance at all--I DEFINITELY don't know how to do the Electric Slide, I was out there, looking like a fool, but having fun, because what else can you do at a wedding? Later Bob and I had a few slow dances and I was out there with some of my other cousins.
When Bob and I were getting ready to leave, I spotted Becky and stopped to say goodbye, she was very insistent that we stay in touch better than we have over the years. I know she'd had a few drinks, but she's also been one of the more outgoing of the girls. And she and Jeannette actually live up in this neck of the woods. She gave me her email address and made me promise to email her. (Which I still need to do.) I don't know how much will come of it, but it would be nice to [re]connect with family I've never really been close to.
My cousin CJ is supposed to be getting married sometime later this year. I have no idea when but I can only assume that we'll all be invited. There's been considerable DRAMA! involving my Aunt Linda as she seems to be getting crazier and crazier as the years go by. But she did call my mom recently to get some addresses for her. So we'll just wait and see. There's always a "feud" going on but it's not MY feud. I'd go for CJ, he's my cousin and he deserves to have his family at his wedding. Even if he didn't show up to Rachel's and probably wont' show up to ours. That's likely more his crazy mother's influence than anything anyway.
But anyhoo...PICTURES! (click the little-bitty ones to see bigger ones.)
1.) Faking the Electric Slide
2.) Becky realized Bob had a camera on us.
3.) Little Audrey gettin' her groove on.
4.) Becky and Me.
5.) Our first wedding as a married couple.
6.) With Becky and our cousin Jamie. Little Jamie--who my mom babysat from the time she was 3 months old is now old enough to DRIVE. GAH!